Cultivate Lesson 15           

Review from last week
1.  What are some VCS rules that you think are unfair? 

2. How does pop culture portray some of God's rules? sex outside of marriage is ok 

3.  Seed thought: 

How do we keep God's rules? You have to change from the "religion do's and don't s to more of a relationship.  Then you can make life changing connections with God.


Students write down the blue questions and the red answers.


Have you heard the phrase, how a man treats his mother is how he will eventually treat his wife? While we can’t prove this statement, it does definitely ring with some universal truth.

1 Cor 13 video   Open up with reading 1 Corinthians 13 13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.


1. Why is family so important? 

How we treat and interact with our family sets a pattern for how we will engage with our future spouse and family.

Living with family- brothers, sisters, parents, and or guardians can be full of both wonderful and extremely difficult experiences. Living with others always has its ups and downs.

What we do with these dynamics set the stage for the kind of life we will build with our future spouses. While God does not tempt us, He does allow us to be tested and refined.

2. Why do some families struggle?  Love is a walk that you have to walk in the family.

The difficult encounters with our parents and siblings can help strengthen our commitment to walk in love.

3. Why do I have to submit to my parents? 5th commandment. Honor your father and mother

Furthermore, learning to submit to and honor our parents sets us up to be ready to enter the work force and submit to authority.

We can learn to cultivate the fruits of the Spirit and develop our love walk as we allow the dynamics of family life to refine our commitment to honor God.

Let’s check out this clip from Pastor Paul’s sermon on “Classic”



Why do we need to know about ?

1.  To let others know what is our perspective.

2.  Helps to guide others toward heaven

3.  then we begin to make the right decisions and form the appropriate responses to questions that effect everyday life. Because, in the end, the truth does set us free.  It is our decisions and actions that reveal what we really believe.


Small Group Discussion


How does Ruth’s response and following actions in regards to caring for Noami reveal character traits important for bringing into marriage?

How can our experiences and interactions with family prepare us to one day build a healthy marriage and family life?

What are your favorite things about being with your family?

What are some of the issues or conflicts that often come up when engaging with your parents, guardians, or siblings?

How can you commit these issues to God and allow God to build character in your through these difficulties?