How do I Avoid / Settle Conflicts?         Proverbs 13

Proverbs  vs 10 

Proud people always argue. Wise people ask for advice.

v11 A thief’s money soon disappears.

Save your money!  Your savings will grow.

v12 When you must wait for something, you are sad.

When you receive it, you will be truly content.

v13 If you refuse to obey instructions, you will suffer troubles.

But if you obey such commands, you will be safe.

v14 When a wise man teaches, he gives life.

His directions will change the life of a man who is in danger of death.

v15 Study wisdom carefully, and you will receive love.

Life is hard for the person that lies.

16 Every prudent man acts out of knowledge,
       but a fool exposes his folly.

    17 A wicked messenger falls into trouble,
       but a trustworthy envoy brings healing.

    18 He who ignores discipline comes to poverty and shame,
       but whoever heeds correction is honored.

19 A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul,
       but fools detest turning from evil.

    20 He who walks with the wise grows wise,
       but a companion of fools suffers harm.

    21 Misfortune pursues the sinner,
       but prosperity is the reward of the righteous.

    22 A good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children,
       but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.

    23 A poor man's field may produce abundant food,
       but injustice sweeps it away.

    24 He who spares the rod hates his son,
       but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

    25 The righteous eat to their hearts' content,
       but the stomach of the wicked goes hungry.


Write the questions, in red, down in one color and the answers in another skipping lines between each.

What are the top 5 things you argue with your parents about?

How do you try to settle a conflict?   important is it to seek common ground? 

How does the company you keep (v20) affect you?

How would you describe the type of music you listen to? 
Watch this 30 sec video on how parents describe your music.

What is your "hope deferred" or "longing fulfilled" vv. 12 or 19

What comfort do you find as you wait for Jesus to fulfill that hope?

Let's talk about verse 22   

A good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children,
       but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous.

Pretend your a parent / grandparent.

What do you believe about leaving large inheritances to your children or grandchildren?  (a) Let them earn it the hard way? (b) Spend it all on your retirement. (c) Leave as much as possible for others? (d) Giving money creates more problems than it solves so hoard it.

How would your view on inheritances differ if you were the recipient? 

Let's talk about corporal (spanking) punishment.  Look at verse 24

He who spares the rod hates his son,
       but he who loves him is careful to discipline him

I need three panel volunteers, one to be a teenager, parent, and grandparent.  Then I need one student to be the child in each

I'm the talk-show host discussing spanking children.  How does your three generation panel react to verse 24?  And then to each scenario.

Your son is 5yrs old and broke great granny's vase.  Then lied about doing so.  What's the punishment?

A ninth grade girl stole Frotto.  Teacher calls parent and requests home discipline. What's the punishment?

Your 8th grade boy for a third time played video games past bedtime and was not responsible to complete his hmwk assignment. What's the punishment?

Your 10 yr old was with friends at the mall and she shoplifted a 50.00 shirt from Hollister.  First offense.  What's the punishment?

Your 3yr old son climbed on top of the kitchen table and played with the light fixture chandelier swinging back and forth until finally it comes lose and crashes to the table.  What's the punishment?

Your 9 yrs old girl cussed (damn) at her mom, then lied about it.  What's the punishment?

Your 15 yr old boy has sex with his girl friend.   What's the punishment?

Watch Privacy 3 min video:

Verse 10

Proud people argue because they speak their own thoughts.  A proud person always thinks that he is right.  He will not listen to anyone else.

A wise person behaves differently.  Although a wise person is wise, he is willing to hear the advice of other people.  A wise person has great understanding, because he listens to other people.

Verse 11

An evil person does not spend his money wisely.  Often he does not save it for the future.  He wastes it.  Perhaps he spends it on beer and wine.  Perhaps he places bets.  Perhaps he takes risks.  Sometimes thieves steal the money from him.

If a wise person has money, he spends it carefully.  He saves the money that he does not need today.  He is generous and he helps other people.  Money is worth more, when a wise person owns it.

Verse 12

We do not receive everything immediately.  Sometimes, we must wait.  This can be difficult.  We may not see quick results from our prayers.  We should wait for God’s time.  God will answer our prayers, if we ask for the right things. 

Jesus told a story about an unfair judge.  The judge refused to help a widow.  She appealed to him many times.  Finally, the judge agreed to help (Luke 18:1-8).  God is better and kinder than an unfair judge.  God will help us, when we pray.

Verse 13

People write books of instructions to help us.  We should read and obey the instructions.  Then, we shall be safer.  A foolish person refuses to read instructions.  He thinks that he knows what to do.

God gave his commands to us in order to help us.  We should obey his commands.  And we should live in the right way.  Then we shall receive God’s reward.

Verse 14

Our church leaders and teachers need wisdom.  They should respect God.  Their lives should please God.  Then when they teach, the people will benefit from their words.

Ordinary wisdom can save a person from natural dangers and death.  God’s wisdom can save a person from the danger of hell.  God’s wisdom will bring that person to heaven.

Verse 15

We should listen to other people.  We should try to help them with their problems.  If we are wise, then people will appreciate this.  People will ask for our advice and they will respect us.  They will love us, because of our wisdom.

If we learn from God, then we shall become wiser.  God will love us, because we respect him.

But nobody respects the person that lies.  This person does not deserve love from anyone



Updated: February 6, 2011

OBJECTIVES: Students will be able to:

1.describe the significance of settling conflicts in a Christian manner.

2. Explain the difference between the Wisdom and Knowledge

3. describe the

4. chart on a map the

5. define the terms

6. Explain the significance of

Knowledge: Recall of data.

Comprehension: Understand the meaning, translation, interpolation, and interpretation of instructions and problems. State a problem in one's own words.

Use a concept in a new situation or unprompted use of an abstraction. Applies what was learned in the classroom into novel situations in the workplace.

Separates material or concepts into component parts so that its organizational structure may be understood. Distinguishes between facts and inferences. 

Builds a structure or pattern from diverse elements. Put parts together to form a whole, with emphasis on creating a new meaning or structure.

Make judgments about the value of ideas or materials.

Remember : Recognizing, Recalling
Understand : Interpreting, exemplifying, classifying, summarizing, inferring, comparing, explaining
Apply : Executing, implementing
Analyze : Differentiating, organizing, attributing
Evaluate : checking, critiquing
Create: generating, planning, producing