Legally Becoming an Adult       Proverbs 23

Proverbs 23

1 When you sit to dine with a ruler,
       note well what is before you,

2 and put a knife to your throat
       if you are given to gluttony.

3 Do not crave his delicacies,
       for that food is deceptive.

4 Do not wear yourself out to get rich;
       have the wisdom to show restraint.

5 Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone,
       for they will surely sprout wings
       and fly off to the sky like an eagle.

6 Do not eat the food of a stingy man,
       do not crave his delicacies;

7 for he is the kind of man
       who is always thinking about the cost.
       "Eat and drink," he says to you,
       but his heart is not with you.

8 You will vomit up the little you have eaten
       and will have wasted your compliments.

30 Those who linger over wine,
       who go to sample bowls of mixed wine.

31 Do not gaze at wine when it is red,
       when it sparkles in the cup,
       when it goes down smoothly!

32 In the end it bites like a snake
       and poisons like a viper.

33 Your eyes will see strange sights
       and your mind imagine confusing things.

34 You will be like one sleeping on the high seas,
       lying on top of the rigging.

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Take out a blank piece of paper.  Write your standard heading in top right corner.

Write the title of the lesson across the top line.

Write down each question (red) listed in both columns in one color and the answers in another color.  Skip lines between questions.

At what age do you think you will become an adult?  What's the legal age? 18? 21? Click on this link Adult in OK and write down these questions and answers.

What are the telltale signs,  privileges or rites of passage that has marked your becoming an adult?

Look at vv. 1-8.  They talk about food.  How many times a week do you sit down and have a meal with parents and siblings all eating together?  Who does the majority of the cooking?  Do you ever help cook a meal?  I'm not talking about hot pockets or a frozen pizza.  Does your family pray before the meal?

What is the meaning of verse 2?

Look at vv. 3,4,6  write down the meaning of each "do not".

Watch the video below about Jesus in Gethsemane.  What is He struggling with?  Who comes to visit Him in the garden to tempt Him? What does Jesus do to the snake?

Now let's look at vv. 30-34  What is the message in these verses? abstinence

If you were teaching abstinence to your child using vv. 30-34 how would you word it?


Verses 1-3

A ruler does not invite you so that you can taste his fine food.  He invites you because he wants to discuss serious matters with you.  You should not think much about his food or his wine.  But you must think about your words.  Your advice must be good.  You need to speak wise words.

Solomon uses humour in verse 2.  Normally you place your knife near your plate.  But Solomon jokes that your knife should be near your neck.  In your imagination, hold your knife there to warn you.  Then you will remember that your life is short.  You will remember not to be greedy.  And you will remember to advise the ruler wisely.

Solomon continues his advice in verse 3.  Be careful if an important person invites you to a special meal.  He could want you to do something for him.

Nehemiah 2 explains this lesson.  Nehemiah was the king's servant.  The king expected Nehemiah to be happy in the royal service.  But Nehemiah had received sad news.  So Nehemiah prayed to God.  And he spoke carefully to the king.  God answered Nehemiah's prayer.  And the king gave to Nehemiah the things that Nehemiah requested.

Verses 4-5

The Book of Proverbs encourages us to work hard.  But some people work too hard, because they want to become wealthy.  These people suffer because they use all their energy in their work.  Their families suffer too.  We ought to be sensible.

We can lose our money quickly.  When we die, we cannot take our money with us (Luke 12:16-21; 1 Timothy 6:7).  Many things matter more than money.  Love is more important than money.  Wisdom is more important than money.  And God is more important than money or anything else. 

Verses 6-8

Some people pretend to be our friends.  But they do not care about us.  They might say the right words.  They might invite us to their homes.  But they do not want to share their possessions with us.  Instead, they want to keep their things for themselves.  This is not a good attitude.  We should not copy it.

The first Christians were very generous.  They shared their possessions (Acts 4:32-37).  They did this because they loved each other.  We might not copy their actions today.  But we should still be generous.  We should still invite people to our homes.  And we should be glad to share our food with our guests (Hebrews 13:2).

Verse 30

The writer tells us what is wrong.  These people drank too much wine.  Alcohol tempted them.  This is terrible, he argues.

Verse 31

Wine may look attractive.  But it causes many troubles.  When a person begins to drink alcohol, that person sometimes cannot stop.  This is an illness called ‘alcoholism'.  If someone cannot control alcohol, that person needs help.  That person should learn not to drink alcohol again.  Doctors might help them.  A group called ‘Alcoholics Anonymous' might help.  And that person's friends should explain the problems that alcohol causes.  Alcohol causes many illnesses.  Alcohol can cause death.

Verse 32

The writer tells us about a drunk's strange experiences.  If someone has an alcohol problem, that person should obtain help early.  That person should not wait until they suffer these strange experiences.

The writer seems to know these experiences well.  Perhaps the writer himself suffered this problem. 

Drunks may see strange things.  Some drunks imagine that they see snakes.  A drunk might imagine that the snakes are attacking him.

Verse 33

Alcohol confuses a drinker.  A drinker cannot think sensible thoughts.  Often, he thinks that he needs to drink more alcohol.  Really, he needs to stop.

Verse 34

When the drinker drinks too much alcohol, he feels like someone on a ship.  The drinker cannot walk in a straight line.  He might shake.  He might fall.  He might be sick.



OBJECTIVES: Students will be able to:

1. Identify the simple man

2. Explain the difference between the Wisdom and Knowledge

3. describe the

4. chart on a map the

5. define the terms

6. Explain the significance of

Knowledge: Recall of data.

Comprehension: Understand the meaning, translation, interpolation, and interpretation of instructions and problems. State a problem in one's own words.

Use a concept in a new situation or unprompted use of an abstraction. Applies what was learned in the classroom into novel situations in the workplace.

Separates material or concepts into component parts so that its organizational structure may be understood. Distinguishes between facts and inferences. 

Builds a structure or pattern from diverse elements. Put parts together to form a whole, with emphasis on creating a new meaning or structure.

Make judgments about the value of ideas or materials.